I started coaching because of a calling. I felt compelled to empower those who needed a nudge and who struggled with imposter syndrome and defeatism.
Additionally, I remember when I needed someone to tell me I would make it through one of the most difficult seasons of my life. Back then I recall looking online trying to find someone who worked with women who had been scammed, duped and experienced identity theft.
Yes, that’s my story, but we all have one. I have learned to celebrate, process and the embrace the joys and sorrows of life.
Of course, I couldn’t find the encouragement I was looking for back then. Yet, I know I wasn’t the only one who experienced it. Back then I needed someone to tell me I was going to make it through that tough season, because all I truly wanted to do was isolate for fear of being judged. As an educated woman faith with a 4.2 Gpa people were trying to make sense of what happened to me and why.
Honestly, it didn’t make sense to me either, but what I found out was God was with me. He gave me the strength I needed to endure. Truthfully, I would not have recovered without His help. I needed to get up, face the day and parent while fighting through feelings of self-sabotage and grief. I was mourning what could have been or at least what I was told. It was all a facade.
How do you recover from something like that? I’ve been asked this question more than once. How did I recover. For one I prayed. I cried. I punched the pillow. I screamed in it when I needed to. Then I forgave.
Forgiveness allows you to release the person and the offense. If not, what they have done will follow you down the street, sit with you at work and keep you from resting at night. Believe me I spent many a night back then looking up at the ceiling while I knew the person who hurt me was snoring and moving on in life.
I forgave the person who wounded me. I forgave the person who violated me. I forgave myself. I forgave those who saw me in a vulnerable state and chose to further wound me instead of helping me. All these moments were making me stronger, developing empathy for others and helping me to gain wisdom so I could passionately coach and inspire others with my story.
If you are facing emotional distress or feeling stuck due to a painful challenge you have faced, I am hoping you choose healing and victory. Choose to release the pain. You literally invite God into the brokenness and share your heartfelt pain with him. Then you cast away your cares.
Literally, see yourself throwing it off you. Sometimes, it helps to write down the offense (what happened) and choose to get if off you. You give it up, because if I held on to what happened I wasn’t looking forward to my new and next. Until I chose to do something about it, I remained stuck.
Healing is a choice. Don’t give up.
I am living proof that there is more to the story. The truth is you can always get back up and you can always start again.
Here’s to turning the page. Happy New Day!
The Resilient, Optimistic Empowerment Coach